Psychotherapy is a way to create a life with a sense of purpose and meaning. You may not change anything essential about yourself yet the world looks entirely different afterwards. Life can become richer and offer more possibilities.
Were you raised with high expectations? Do you have trouble finding your groove in relationships after being conditioned in the past to focus on results and external success? For a lot of people, especially men, there is a rich inner world that remains unexplored. People I have worked with are often able to tap into their potential to transform their emotional lives while building on what has made them successful at work.
Perhaps when you were younger, you faced situations like bullying, or having to fend for yourself more than seemed fair. You had to cope somehow, and found your way this far, but you can still be badly triggered by criticism, fearful and protective against letting others in, either by projecting a strong facade or by spacing out and feeling less connected to the people around you. Together, we can look at these sensitive parts of you with care, help you to find your way towards more fulfilling relationships where you can feel safer and more assertive.
From earliest days we are shaped by parents and the culture we grew up in. The way we were taught and the books we read often reflected a bias framing the roles of men and women. Women are supposed to take on auxiliary roles, emotional caretakers, while men are intended for active leadership roles. Yet many people don’t fit these categories and when they don’t, feel they are falling short, feel shame (and receive shame from others) for not meeting these stereotypes. I work with people to confront and question the expectations and assumptions that came from family and culture, and who can become more fully who they are when they can feel freer to create the life they choose for themselves.
Narrow beginnings, broader conclusions
My work as a therapist can help you get in touch with your emotional world so that you can develop your potential. I often start work with people on narrow issues, while holding in mind the broader goal of personal growth.
I am dedicated to staying on top of new research and work to integrate new knowledge with a psychodynamic approach to help people move towards a deeper understanding of their world. Through the process of therapy you can learn to build resilience and confidence, taking the power away from older patterns of self-doubt and fear. The people I have worked have often come to see themselves and their relationships in new ways and to feel a sense of personal growth, building their emotional self-awareness.
If it seems like my approach might work for you, call me today so we can get started.