What drew me to this work
I was drawn to work as a therapist because the work involved a lot of direct personal contact with the people I work with. Because grappling with the human mind is a fascinating, complex and rewarding. Before I became a therapist, I spent a couple of decades working in the “salt mines” of the tech industry.
How I’m different from other therapists
Many of us who went into demanding technical work did so in part because it was objective and it was reassuring to know when we were getting it right. It engaged our rational parts while leaving out the messy emotional parts. But if you approach life by sidelining your emotions, you will over time feel increasingly empty, anxiety-ridden, a mess.
As a male therapist, I work well with men who are looking to expand their emotional range. I work best with people who are curious to know themselves more deeply and motivated to tend with greater care to themselves and to their relationships.
When it is called for, I’ll confront destructive behavior, but do so without shaming. This is a skill I’ve honed from working with both men and women in couples therapy.
I have a Masters Degree in Counseling from the Wright Institute in Berkeley. My focus has been on helping couples, men and women to improve their relationships and to heal from the damaging consequences of developmental trauma.
As an undergraduate I obtained a BS in Computer Science from the University of Wisconsin at Madison.
A Focus on Relationships
I specialize in and continue to train in relational psychotherapy, emotionally-focused couples therapy and more. The common ground is a focus on relationships, aimed at helping people to live richer lives with closer bonds and higher levels of mental integration. I work to help people to develop new stories and leave the old, dysfunctional stories behind.
Before coming to the Bay Area, I lived in Australia and the Midwest, the UK. I have traveled extensively around Europe, the Middle East, Asia and Australia. I have a special interest in working with people from diverse racial, religious, cultural and gender identity backgrounds.